My last post is on private and will remain that way, but the whole post was about my doubts on single parenting. I had some questions but soon after I wrote the post, I found my answer! This is reposted by , from a wonderful woman who has been married over 30 years and has more than a few children LOL A Place Called Simplicity. Thank you so much; this post was so inspiring!
Should A Single Woman Adopt?
I knew this question was churning all day
in my heart for a reason!! This question has come
up so many times, and even more so with
the post the other day about our treasure Elizabeth,
that I just had to address it publicly.
praying and asking.
if this is the Lord’s will for me. I have such a
desire to adopt, but I am single.”
when praying about “God’s will” we must first
find out if it in any way contradicts with scripture.
If it does, then it is most definitely NOT God’s will.
“Is there anywhere in scripture where God says,
“Do NOT care for the orphans”?”
Almighty God says there
are two things that show true religion:
{1} caring for the orphan
and
{2} caring for the widow.
that God says, “You are single, sit back and take
it easy, the care of the orphans is only for them-thar
married folk.”
“Caring for the orphan and widow”
James 1:27
pastor; staff pastor; Bible college employee;
Sunday School teacher; world evangelist; prophet;
deacon; elder a nice person or anything else…..
show me you love me by caring
for the orphans and widows.
{specifically} care for them. At the risk of sounding silly:
How could something that is clearly God’s heart
not be His will for you?
are truly struggling with this:
I want this so bad, I must not be worthy of it.
{And that would be a lie from the pit of hell.}
It is only to be lived for Him. If it is lived for Him,
He will one day say, “Well done thou good and
faithful servant.” It is not to be lived to please
yourself but to please Him and only Him.
because you are single?
It isn’t.
It is the same.
God’s word says to do it!
He does not have one standard for married people
and one standard for the single person.
In fact you are in a better position! I hear from many
married folks whose heart wants desperately
to adopt yet their spouse says, “not a chance”.
{To which I say: fast and pray for a change in
your spouses heart, but don’t tell them you
are fasting for that reason.}
to think of it, it was our anniversary. We had some
time to waste as we were waiting for our dinner
reservation time. We went in a little shop and
there was a sign for sale.
It struck me funny.
You have to remember we have been
happily married for 31 years
{to the day}…..
but that sign said:
I have talked to a bazillion ladies who are so
unhappy with their husbands. And I have talked
to more than my share of women who were once
single and thought that happiness would come
when they found that perfect man. Only thing is
that that perfect man doesn’t exist. And today,
there are even fewer Godly men in existence.
years that could have been spent raising precious
little ones in desperate need of a mommy.
Two parent homes are thought by many to be ideal, but really….who says that has to be?
Ever asked an orphan?
“Ummmmm, excuse me. I am single. I want to be a mommy…
but I am waiting for a daddy…
so in the meantime you sit there and enjoy
that orphanage….cause I’m sure you’d rather
be one of 400 kids….with no one to kiss your boo-boos
or listen to your dreams while I sit over
here waiting for Mr. Right.”
for someone to say, “You are mine and we’re in this
together. We may not have a daddy at the moment
{or maybe ever}, but we will let God be your daddy
and I will be your mommy, and by the way
He happens to be a really cool daddy, infact He
is the only Perfect Daddy.”
Would you rather have just a mommy and not a daddy
Would you rather wait, hope, dream that someday a mommy & daddy come for you?
friends like: Carol {in northern Colorado}, Sandee,
and Nancy…..just a few of the women who have said,
“I am not married, but I can be a great mom and
I’m not waiting for a husband to do that. I will care
for the orphan because that’s God’s will for all of us!”
You guys have my utmost respect – may God pours
heaps of blessings on you and your children!!
fast and pray and study scripture…..just for starters
take a look at these folks…..
from certain impending death….Esther was raised by her
uncle…and there is never a mention of an aunt.
(Doesn’t mean there wasn’t an aunt,
but she obviously wasn’t very important to the story.)
eventually lived with Pharoah’s daughter….
never a mention of Pharoah’s daughter’s husband….
(Doesn’t mean there wasn’t one, but he obviously
wasn’t very important to the story.)
And on that note….I am 100% convinced that
single women should adopt.
need each one has as they are in the process
and throughout raising each child.
in mind for each of you who are willing to say,
“Okay, I’m going for it!”
to partner with singles who adopt to make
their road smoother.
around this world wondering and praying and
begging God if there couldn’t possibly be
a mommy out there for them?